Hot take alert!
We all have the opportunity to be in recovery from something.
Recovery does not only mean abstinence from substances. You could be recovering from shopping addiction, perfectionism, need to be busy, social media, sex / porn or more. In our society we tend to pigeon hole recovery as something for people who cannot handle their liquor (or heroine or whatever substance).
Another hot take coming… It is not about the substance (or shopping, or feeling of importance at being so busy, or the porn). I think it is about feeling disconnected. The opposite of addition is not sobriety, it is connection.
On the podcast we talk about how recovery applies to each of our lives – both the woo woo and the practical, including resources that you might find practical.
One of my favorite “tools” as I am deciding whether something is part of recovery of part of disconnection is to ask myself this:
Will this move me towards or away from health?
Take a quiet moment to connect with yourself or have an honest conversation with an authentic trusted friend. Float the idea that something is not working for you. Peel off the layer to ask yourself / wonder out loud why you continue to do that or what it might be helping you disconnect from.
You may be surprised at what you find.
You can find the episode here. I would love to hear your thoughts on this theory of recovery. If you had a visceral aversion to these ideas, I would be interested to know that too. You can comment below or at firstname.lastname@example.org.
If these messages or the podcast is connecting with you, please share it with someone you think may be ready to hear it as well.