I have spent quite a few years pretending I knew what I was doing. Approximately 40-some years.
It is exhausting.
In this week’s podcast, Genay and I talk about Conscious Contact in the workplace and for me, this is where imposter syndrome really showed itself.
And man, I sure took it out on a lot of my direct reports. I required perfection at all times and was scared shitless that someone would find out I was clueless on how to get there. I ruined a lot of relationships and drove off a lot of good people – just because they were different from me or needed something I was not able to give them.
Although I stopped managing people in 2010, it took about 7 more years for me to start to loosen the death grip on perfection. Here are a couple tent poles that I keep returning to:
- Wearing life like a loose garment.
- Learning about the Buddhist concepts of beginner mind.
- Having a sense of humor.
- Trying new things.
“In the beginners mind, there are many possibilities, but in the experts there are few.” Shunryu Surjuki
Listen to the whole episode at this link or wherever you get your podcasts.